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absolutely speechless.

EDIT// WRT developments on this situation – this is what happened when I was on the phone with my dad (a.k.a. “ji-chan”) today:

Dad: So your blog says people on the WWW are losing sense, no?
Me: Yes. No. Maybe. Kinda. I dunno. I’m not too bothered though.
Dad: Ah. How about I help you return the favour?
Me: (lost for a bit) Eh?
Dad: Y’know, give me your control panel password. And I’ll help remove the link.
Me: *chortle* It’s okay, dad. I’ll leave it until I get FTP back. (Thinks: In 3 months. Tch. =/)
Dad: Ah well. Never mind them then, no?
Me: U-huh. =)

Good to know that me parents care. =) Anywho, that’s my decision – take her off when I get back hom so she can enjoy some free traffic for now. (Tch!)

I thank you guys for your thoughts and support though. I’ll still leave this post if you or any odd-stumble-uponers want to say anything. // END


Question: How do you cope with unreasonable behaviour online without stirring up a storm?

So here’s the deal – Person whose site is new (to me at least) in the design community (though the claim is said person’s designed for over 3 years) asks for affiliation on Surrealle and I accept. Here’s what I recieved after replying to the application:

Oh, oh, oh! Really? You’ll accept me?! -screaaaaaaaaaam- I’ll have your link up around the time when I get my new skin up, which will most likely be soon.
Cool, Malaysia! I’m Chinese, myself, but I live in Canada, so…
Thank you so much!

Well, you can imagine that the application had similar hyper-ness injected. But that’s not the point. Digression aside…less than a month after being affiliated, this is what I get in the mail.

Hi hi and hi! I’m really sorry to send such a bad email D: I was wondering if I could link exchange with you instead? Thanks for reading and have a good day~

And just like that, my link gets taken off. I would do the same but as I’m stuck with no access to FTP/Cpanel for 3 more months, I can’t “return the favour”.

I don’t know what to say. Just that I’m irked/mad (in-between) and I give up on people.

What say you?

14 Responses to “absolutely speechless.”

  • Scarlet says:

    First off, do I know this person? It almost seems like I do (or at least have heard of them, but I dunno). I must just be weird ^^ But anyway…

    Ugh. Now these are the kinds of “affiliates” that have always gotten to me. While it’s never happened to me, I’m sure it’d piss me off too if it did. There’s nothing more annoying and disrespectful than getting dropped like a hot potato. I think if I were you I would definitely want to know why I was “demoted.” If they’re not responding or whatever, then it’s completely not worth your time. There’s nothing wrong with you at all; this person seems very unprofessional and has a lot to learn about this webdesign business.

    I’m sorry, but the hyperness is just a giant turn-off for me. I can’t take someone seriously if they’re completely hyper in their e-mails and stuff.

  • Morgan says:

    That SUCKS. Who does that kind of thing? How insane can someone be? No really, just de-affiliating you like that? I think it is VERY disrespectful and personally I would never want to have anything to do with said person anymore. I would probably send her an email back saying: “You know, if you can no longer affiliate with me, you might as well just take the so-called link exchange of too. I find it very disrespectful of you to do such thing for apparently no reason whatsoever.” Or something along those lines. Bluh. This could even make me angry, and I’m not the one it happened to…Yuck.
    Such people should be banned of the world wide web forever. Obviously, like Scarlet said, that person is being very unprofessional and it is clear that he/she probably has not been in the designing business for too long, else they would have had more common sense (I hope…).

  • Faye says:

    Wow…

    Who’s that? Let me know and I’ll kick his/her butt for you! I think he/she doesn’t even understand what’s affiliation all about. Shame on him/her!

  • Skye says:

    Well I’m kinda guessing who it is by the fact that since you can’t return the favor and take her off, she’s still on your list, and you’re not on hers. Thats the case with only one of your affies so yeah.

    The site doesn’t impress me at all which shows why she was excited you accepted. As for her dropping you, I have no idea. Ignore her and be glad you don’t have to be her affy and deal with her anymore?

  • Harper says:

    Truthfully, I hate people who do that. I mean, it just goes to show that people should make their decisions more carefully before following through with them. Otherwise, they could end up disrespecting/offending someone in the end.

    Because of what Skye mentioned, I’m guessing they’re probably not up to your skill level. I think you should just do this: ignore it and keep improving. Once your skill level rises higher and you’re blowing everyone away, they’ll be regretting it. That’s what I always do in the face of an “affiliation rejection.” To me, that way is less confrontational,but still does the job well.

  • Naz says:

    haha whoa what can I say. O__O -shocker- She must admire you alot considering her reaction of you accepting her ^^;; a bit hyper.
    =/ but to take you off thats kinda mean. Or link exchange as you say. Mainly what Harper said I agree.
    awww but Ariane don’t give up people

  • Mei Zhu says:

    At least she gave you notice instead of just taking you off and expecting you to notice…?

    Just ignore them. They were being rude, but there are better people out there who won’t stop affiliating you for no reason.

  • naz says:

    awwww your dad cares =] my parents don’t know much of my online life. xD

  • RayRay says:

    Just wanted to inform you that the local handmade cheese in Somerset is a fantastic cuisine (well,that was 20 years ago.Don’t know if they still have it). Try it out if you have a chance.

  • Deee says:

    I like your layout.. just thought i’d comment as I’ve wondered onto your page ^^

    So annoying when that happens.. don’t they find themselves rude? =|

    everyone’s FTP seems to be going abit funny these days =S mmh.

  • Aisyah says:

    OMG, that person is just rude. may I know who that person is? I want to take a look at her/his website. Bet his/her website is one of those lousy site. lol.

    and sorry that you can’t access your ftp and cpanel for 3 months. that’s very long period! I know how itchy it’ll get not being able to update some files. atleast, you’ll still get to blog, right?

  • ida says:

    hi.. i just saw ur linked.
    i didn’t know my mom read my blog too.. ehee.. ur father is cute.
    and OMG why are ppl acting like tat?!

  • Rachel says:

    Hey Ari!
    I’m sorry I haven’t been in touch for so long!
    I’ve been REALLY busy but i’m opening a new site very soon :)
    Awww that sucks, who would be so mean and ungrateful?!?!
    How dare they.
    >.> Tch!
    Anyway, feel free to poke me in an email for a chit chat!